Full disclosure: My wife is doing the same 30 day challenge with her blog and I stole the idea from her...so if you follow both of us (and I hope you do), our entries will be similar for a while.
As a writer, I find it interesting that the one subject closest to my heart--my wife--is the subject I have the hardest time writing about. I made an attempt several years ago, which you can read here and had similar thoughts back then. All these years later, I don't think it's any easier but I suppose that's why they call this a challenge, right?
I met Marci in 1997, a few months before high school would mercifully come to an end. As she wrote in her blog, we met online at a time when that type of thing was still considered weird. She lived 3000 miles away. In my head, it seems like things between us accelerated quickly but it really did take a long time for our relationship to develop. It started with infrequent chat room conversations, which led to her reading my bad poetry. That led to longer chatroom conversations which led to short phone calls...and then longer talks....you get the idea.
Before I knew it, our nightly talks and her friendship became as much a part of my life as any friendship I had. Somewhere along the line, that friendship developed into something more...and she became someone I didn't want to be without. Eventually I knew I would do whatever I had to do, including move halfway across the country, to make sure I didn't have to be.
Occasionally, someone will ask me how I knew she was "the one." The best answer I can give is one that ESPN's Bill Simmons once wrote about his own wife: She tries hard not to ask me to do things I don't want to do. It's really that simple. No bolt of lightning. No butterflies. She just accepted me for who I was. She was the first person in my life to do that and she did it without question and without any motive other than to see me happy.
We got married in 2005 after seven years together and have steadily been disproving all those who say that marriage is when all the fun stops.
We have a great life these days. It's not glamorous but it's exactly what we have worked hard to make it...it's us. We enjoy every moment of it together. We laugh and smile a lot. We like having dinner with friends and going to movies or sporting events. We spend a lot of time in the same room saying nothing but enjoying the comfort of having the other person there. When celebrate our victories and face our challenges together. She's the best teammate I've ever had and the only person in my life with whom I don't feel at least a little bit out of place.
Every guy should be so lucky.
Until next time.
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